Monday, October 10, 2011
It's a lot more attractive to be positive!
Not until recently have I noticed that the people and atmosphere that you are surrounded by on a daily basis make a huge impact on your well-being. I usually blog about beauty that you can buy, but today's blog is about a different kind of beauty.
I'm 22, work full time, live in Baltimore City with my 25 year old boyfriend and dog and always have a plan. I have normal 22 year old frustrations like money and parking and figuring out what I actually want to be when I grow up. I admit I like to be in control of most situations, I'm extremely stubborn, I get hobbies for about a week because I lose interest in things if I cant perfect them right away and I have a hard time sitting still for more than 30 minutes. I'm probably not the easier person to be around all the time but not until recently did I realize WHY.
Creating your own positive environment has a huge.huge.huge impact on every single part of your day. If you go to sleep feeling like crap because you hate your job, or your house, or your significant other, or your car, or the fact that you're broke then inevitably you are going to wake up feeling like crap and start your whole brand new day off crappy. You might be thinking that you'd have to be crazy to do that to yourself but most times folks, we don't realize we are unhappy. We roll with the punches or go with the daily grind because we are told this is "just the way life goes"... well it's NOT!
I can tell you first hand that I have worked in environments that were pure poison, or with people who were just miserable no matter how good they had it. All it takes is for one person to rain on the parade, or one bad apple to spoil the bunch. No matter what, there will always be someone somewhere who has it 100x worse than you do. No matter WHAT!
Stress and negativity cause all kinds of illnesses, not to mention lack of sleep which leads to dark circles under your eyes etc. Plus without a good 8 hours you just feeling tired and groggy all day which isn't an attractive look for anyone!
I'm lucky enough to have wonderful friends that are positive, inspiring, fun people who encourage me and care, and a boyfriend who supports everything I do from taking a job that pays less to writing to you lovely people every day. I challenge all of you to look at your environment and pick out things that you don't care for, and remove them. Over the past few months I have slowly weeded out negative things in my environment, whether its friends, what I do every day, or even the way I look at or talk about myself.
Being "myself" has never been something I've been really comfortable being and I'm slowly learning to be my own person, have my own opinion, find what lights me up, and it feels unbelievable. In a way I feel like I've missed out on a lot by pretending, or being too serious, or worrying so so much about what other people think about me, but I'm glad I'm looking at it now.
Be fun. Be silly. Be yourself, or at least try to, little by little.
Everything you say makes people feel a certain way. Every smile you give to someone counts. Listening means a lot to people.
If you have people in your life that make you feel good make sure you tell them :)